Adam’s Rib
THE DIVINE DESIGN
People today are constantly
seeking happiness in such things as wealth, status symbols or materialistic
things, in social life, relaxation or privacy, in security or success. At one
time or another, everyone has wished for the “pot of gold” at the end of the
rainbow. Yet ultimately, with the exception of a spiritual relationship with
the Lord, having your right man or your right woman’ is the quintessence of
human happiness. God has designed this fantastic happiness on earth for both
believers and unbelievers. Some have experienced this happiness, while others,
perhaps, have missed it.
Many
of you still have some illusions about life, but you’re also beginning to see many
things which are disillusioning. Now the Word of God is designed to correct all
that, and it is on the basis of the Word that I’m going to set forth certain
principles which may or may not mean much to the younger people at this time.
Perhaps you do not know as yet what it’s like to be with your right man or your
right woman-that you an have a fantastic relationship spiritually, soulishly
and physically, with a person designed for you in eternity past-even though
everything else in the world may be going wrong.
Now I realize that this may
be a delicate subject to some of you, but I will begin with GOD. This is always a good place to start, because it will help to
mitigate many of the problems. When you understand something of God’s
viewpoint, obviously it can’t be wrong! God is perfect His plan, His design,
and His provision are perfect! Apart from salvation and spiritual provision,
both of which are grace gifts, God has even provided some other things that are
absolutely perfect. There’s one woman in the world perfectly suited for every
man; there is one man perfectly suited for every woman-just one-not two, not
three, not a dozen. You may have tried a dozen and already reached this
conclusion. However, in arriving at this conclusion, you have also done great
damage to yourself with regard to the possibility of fulfilling the divine
design. Like the other grace gifts, sex must be understood within the framework
of divine design. God, who designed this for our happiness, also set up some
laws and boundaries.
In the nature of an animal,
there is such thing as “right stud” “right bitch.” A male animal seeks the
company of ANY female animal. Like the
animal nature, the old sin nature” in the human species is frequently not
particular. Therefore, due to the distortions of the s nature, it is difficult
to determine, apart from Scripture, what God has ordained and what man has
corrupted. But that’s exactly what we will see in this study.
Now
God set up a decree, and it is a pronouncement that will always exist:
And God said, Let us make man in our image,
after on, likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and
over the fowl of the air, and r the cattle, and over all the earth, and over
very creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth (Gen. 1:26).
The significance of the
phrase “God said” is this: RIGHT MAN RIGHT WOMAN was PROVIDED HISTORICALLY
BEFORE SALVATION. Originally man did not need salvation; so the greatest thing
God ever did for the human race, apart from salvation, was to make provision
for Right Man — Right Woman. God provided for the male and female in every
realm of their relationship — their soul relationship, their physical
relationship and their relationship with God. The first man and woman had a
great spiritual life, for Jesus Christ personally taught their “Bible class”
every day in the Garden (Gen. 3:8).
Old So. Nature vs. Holy Sprit, by R. B. Thieme, Jr.
tails a related study. Asterisk, throughout refer to book titles.
“God,” in Genesis 1:26, is a
plural word in the Hebrew ELOHIM and always refers to God the
Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit! The Word “said” indicates that the
Members of the Trinity are holding a conference, and what they decided at that
conference is a part of the doctrine of Divine Decrees. The subject on the
agenda here is “man,” but specifically, the principle of Right Man — Right
Woman. This has been a much discussed topic in time, but more so in heaven. At
the time that the Father, the Son and the Spirit decided to create man, they
also decided to provide for the male of the species a right woman; and, apart
from a few exceptions, every person who has ever lived has by divine design and
by God’s grace a right counterpart.
THE CREATION VERBS
“And God said, Let us make
man . . . .” There are four Hebrew verbs which are used in placing man and
woman on this earth in their physical bodies and with souls inside their
bodies:
(1) ASAH — to manufacture something out of existing materials (Gen. 1:26; Isa.
43:7; 57:16).
(2) BARA — to make something out of
nothing; the creation of the invisible essence (Gen. 1:27; 5:1, 2; Isa. 43:7).
(3) JATSAR — used for the creation of the male body only (Gen. 2:7).
(4) BANAH — used for the creation of the female body only (Gen. 2:22).
BARA refers to one aspect of
the soul essence indicated by the word “image,” while ASAH emphasizes another aspect of the soul personality. ASAH is not used for the physical part of man, but is used in connection
with BARA for the creation of the soul and the human
spirit. Although ASAH means “to manufacture
something out of something,” it actually has to do with human personality. You
see, your personality is a manifestation of your soul. BARA is the invisible essence of your
soul and consists of self-consciousness, mentality, volition, emotion and
conscience. All of these together make up
a distinct personality.
Everyone — male and female — has
the same characteristics of the soul. All of you have mentality — a left and
right lobe. You have a conscience in your right lobe; with your volition you
have the ability to make decisions; and you have emotions with which to
appreciate things in life and with
which to respond. The old sin nature, which actually is part of the body, was
not created and therefore is not an
issue at this point. God has manufactured out of the essence of your soul a
distinct personality which belongs only to you. So we have two words used for
the creation of the human soul, because there are two parts to the soul of man — essence and personality. ASAH is mentioned first since man is going to be a personality.
“And ELOHIM said, Let us ASAH (manufacture) man . .
.:’Now we have an interesting thing: the word “man” is ADAM in the Hebrew. Here is another
distinction which you should learn. The word ADAM,
by itself, always refers to male and
female — that is, to the human race.
It is the same concept as Homo sapiens, o mankind. There is another word for “ – HA ADAM. This Hebrew form includes the
definite article. HA ADAM is not the human race in general but refers to the first man and the original
creation by God. This distinction always occurs in the original Hebrew. So the
literal translation here, “ELOHIM said, Let us manufacture out
of the essence of the soul, the HUMAN
RACE.”
ELOHIM is the key to understanding the words “image” and “likeness.” Although
Jesus Christ is the actual Creator (,John 1:3; Col. 1:16; Heb. 1:10), He is not
mentioned here (that will come up
later under “Jehovah Elohim”) since this is still the planning stage. The
plural ELOHIM is used to indicate the
identical essences of God the Father,
God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. There is a pattern here: just as ELOHIM is one in essence, so man —
male or female — has the same essence of soul. But there is also a difference, and the difference comes from the fact that
there are three separate and distinct Persons in the Godhead — therefore, three
Personalities. Just so, there are many, many separate and distinct individuals
in the human race and as many bona fide personalities.
“Image” and “likeness” refer
to invisible essence. “Image,” TSELEM in the Hebrew, is “shadow image” or “essence.” Should someone open your head and look inside, he would not find
self-consciousness or thoughts; he could not see volition, emotion, norms and
standards or the conscience. These things are TSELEM
— they are real but invisible, just as God is real but invisible. Actually the
word TSELEM has a first person plural suffix, which
indicates all three Members of the Godhead. All three have essence, but their essence
is invisible (John 1:18a) you cannot see it with the eye and it is intangible
you cannot handle it.
The same thing is true of
man. God made an invisible part of man which is the REAL MAN. The REAL YOU is
the SOUL! Just as God has invisible but real essence,
so man, though in a different way and in a limited sense, has invisible and
intangible but real essence.
The second word, “likeness,”
or DEMUTH, is a model or pattern. This means that just as
all three Members of the Godhead have the same essence and are three separate
and distinct Persons, so every member
of the human race has the same essence, but we all have different personalities
— we are separate persons.
So ELOHIM created man in his own
image, in the image of God created he him, male and female created he them
(Gen. 1:27).
“Created” here is BARA — to create something out of nothing. Now I want you to notice what it
says: He created HA ADAM (Adam with the definite article) — THE man, one specific person! Verse 26 refers to the human race in
general, and verse 27 refers to Adam in particular. And then again we have the
fact that he was created in the image of God. This is, of course, TSELEM. The first Adam had essence.”
Now something a little
different is added: “MALE AND FEMALE created he THEM.”
First, this indicates that the male and female became living creatures at
separate times. “Male” — ZAKAR — refers to the male soul
of Adam, which created on the sixth day and activated according to Genesis 2:7.
Activation involved the provision of a body to house the soul. You see, the
soul of every human being must have a “house”; and God actually provided on
D-plus-6, the day He created man, a house for the male only. It was some time
afterward before He provided a house for the female soul and she actually
became a living person.
“Female” — NEQEBAH — refers to the woman with regard to her soul,
which was designed to respond to man under the concept of right man right
woman. We discover the details in Genesis 2. After Adam was created, he was
alone for some time. In fact, in Genesis 2:19, he went to work still without
woman. Since D-plus-6 man had a soul, a body, and a spirit; but woman did not
exist as a person until sometime later, as we shall see in a rather dramatic
way. Thus, there was a period on the earth when there was only one male of the
species — in fact, that will become a issue very shortly. So, “male and female
created he them” indicates that although both souls were created at the same
time, only one body, only one person was truly alive. The woman’s soul was
still in incubation the original “sleeping beauty”!
The same principle is brought out in Genesis 5:1:
This is the book of the generations of Adam
[the human race]. In the day that
God created man, in the likeness of God made he him [HA ADAM, the first man].
“In the day” refers to
D-plus-6. “Created” is a qal infinitive construct of BARA, the word used for the essence of the soul. On the sixth day, man’s
body, soul and spirit were created; the woman’s soul was “bara’d” but not
activated. “In the likeness” (DEMUTH a model or pattern) refers
to their personalities. Again we have a reference to the entire human race, but
the emphasis is on the creation of man with different kinds of personalities.
“Made” (ASAH) mans to manufacture personalities out of invisible essence. The
last word “him;” OTHO, refers to the souls of both
the man and the woman. Both of their souls were created on D-plus-6, but one
was activated and one was not.
Male and female created (BARA) he them; and blessed them and called their name Adam (human race),
in the day when they were created (Gen. 5:2 ).
Although the word “male”
here indicates the male sex, it is used for man’s soul, which was designed to
satisfy the soul of the female under the concept of right man—right woman.
“Female” is used for the soul of right woman, which was designed to respond to
the right man. Category Two loves starts in the soul and overflows to the bony.
The souls of right man—right woman, as well as their bodies, are designed to be
a perfect match for each other; but it is the discovery in the soul that leads
to the eventual intimacy of the bodies.
Now this verse adds
something else: “and blessed them.” I would like to remind all of you misogynists
that the design of one male soul and one female soul under Category Two love is
the first and greatest blessing that man ever received apart from salvation!
The piel stem here is intensive, indicating tremendous happiness the ultimate
of human happiness. In Ecclesiastes 9:9 we have a beautiful illustration of
this principle.
MAN’S PORTION IN LIFE
See (enjoy) lives with the right woman whom thou hast loved all the
days of your life of emptiness, whom he has given you under the sun — all the
days of emptiness; for this (right woman) is your portion in life, and in you
work (occupation) in which you are working under the sun (Corrected translation of
Eccl. 9:9).
“Live joyfully,”
as translated in the English is a little weak. What it actually says is
intriguing and just as good! First of all, there is no verb here for “live”;
the word is command and means “to see and enjoy.” See and enjoy what? SEE
LIVES! ENJOY LIVES! “Lives” refers to all the capacities of the soul and body.
The rest of the verse explains what connection this command is to be fulfilled.
First of all, it is referring to a male unbeliever, and he is to see and enjoy
the soul and body of his right woman whom he loves. “Hast loved” is the qal
perfect of AHAB and means that you
experience that love in time, although it was designed in eternity past. It is
the strongest word in the Hebrew language for love.
“All the days” refers to the
remainder of their lives after the right woman is brought to the right man.
Every time a right man is with his right woman, it’s an entire lifetime of
blessing! And this is true even though his life is otherwise filled with
“vanity” (emptiness or misery) — a technical term denoting the life of the
unbeliever. Right woman is a gift of grace, for the believer and unbeliever
alike, during the time in which they are alive on this earth. God did not
intend for man to be miserable with a life of emptiness, He intended each man
to have a RIGHT WOMAN! For the unbeliever, this is the only true or lasting happiness
he can ever have. You see how this knocks out every type of perversion —
homosexuality, lesbianism, bestiality, masturbation and adultery (Eccl. 7:29;
Rom, 1:26; Lev. 18:23; 20:15, 16; Dent. 27:21). People who are inclined toward
any form of sexual perversion inevitably deprive themselves completely and
totally of this one type of happiness in life that neither requires being saved
nor depends on spirituality.
Now, if God designed this
gift so that even an unbeliever with an empty life can have happiness, just
imagine how it will add up for the believer with doctrine who gets hold of the
same thing! A believer will not only have salvation and happiness with God
forever, but he also has two other gifts from God which provide happiness in
time — doctrine and right woman. Of course, adverse spiritual conditions, such
as scar tissue, emotional revolt, reversionism, and reverse process
reversionism destroy the capacity for true happiness.
“For this is YOUR PORTION in
life” refers to the fact that God has given to everyone a portion of happiness.
There isn’t a homosexual walking the streets tonight for whom God did not
provide a right woman. There’s not a lesbian in town for whom God didn’t design
a right man. But some have missed the boat through perversion, just as some
have missed the boat in salvation. Depending on you volition, you can miss all
of God’s grace provisions or you can have them.
The phrase “and in your
occupation in which you are working under the sun [in life],” is a reference to an additional source of
enjoyment in life which God has provided your occupation or profession. So,
according to Ecclesiastes 9:9, man has two portions in life: God give work — by
the sweat of his brow — and a right woman. This is an awe some thought. For
every male and for every female there is by DIVINE DESIGN a right counterpart.
Every person on the face of the earth, now or at any time in history, who is
any kind of perversion — sexual or spiritual — has missed or purposely bypassed
God’s portion for happiness.
This ought to begin to add
up to something — you can’t lose with doctrine! Doctrine provides the capacity
with which to recognize and appreciate right man right woman, and God knows
just the right time to bring along your right man or right woman. He provides
everything; but doctrine is the avenue of appreciation, the avenue for
understanding, and the avenue for a relationship with God which leads to this
wonderful principle of right man right woman.
THE
CREATION OF THE MAN’S BODY
And Jehovah Elohim (Jesus Christ) designed the man of dust from the
ground, and breathed into his nostrils (body) the soul life of lives, and the
Adam became unto a sout of life (Corrected translation of Genesis 2:7).
We have a change from ELOHIM in Genesis 1:26, 27, to JEHOVAH ELOHIM. The doctrine of Divine
Decrees, in which the Members of the Godhead are all involved, is not it view
here. Jehovah is a name and is sometimes used for the Father, sometimes for the
Son and sometimes for the Holy Spirit. But it is always a reference to a
specific Member of the Trinity, which is determined by the context. Essence is
found in ELOHIM; Personality is found in JEHOVAH. Jehovah here refers to Jesus Christ. He is
separate and distinct from the other Members of the Godhead, as they are from
Him. But, since His essence is exactly the same as the Father’s and the Holy
Spirit’s, He is called JEHOVAH ELOHIM.
So now Jesus Christ forms — JATSAR — man. We finally get to the mechanics of the creation of man’s body
on D-plus-6. The creation of man’s soul and personality, remember was BARA and ASAH, Now man gets a body. The
verb JATSAR (to fashion or to devise) is used for the
creation of man’s body in contrast to the creation of the woman’s body, coming
later under the word BANAH (to build). “Man” here, as
you might guess, is HA ADAM, but he will shortly receive
another name. He will also be known as ISH. However, there can be no ISH yet because there is no ISHAH. He is going to be lonely,
but when he gets his ISHAH he will change. HA ADAM will become ISH because ISH has his ISHAH! After all, a man can watch
birds and animals only so long before he begins to get lonely for another of
his kind. That’s the whole point coming up in verses 18 and following.
So “JEHOVAH ELOHIM formed HA ADAM (specific man) out of the dust of the ground.”
“Dust” is EPHER; but notice, the ground is
called ADAMAH. ADAM (the human race), HA ADAM (the first man) and ADAMAH (ground) all have the same general relationship. The dust of the ground
can be the chemicals in the soil o any other construction material existing at
that time in the ground which God used to form the body of man. It was a
fantastic body, but it still wasn’t “cranked up.” So let’s see the mechanics.
“He breathed (or panted, literally — the same idea
as mouth-to-mouth resuscitation) into
his nostrils the breath of lives ....” “Breath” is NE’SHAMAH — the spark of
life. In other words, Adam’s soul was placed inside and the light was turned
on! “Life” for Adam was literally “lives,” indicating he received both the soul
and the spirit (Isa.57:16). Then “HA ADAM kept on being a living soul
(NEPHESH).” NEPHESH refers to the soul which is
created in the image and likeness of God, having essence and personality.
THE NEED FOR A COUNTERPART
And out of the ground the Lord God
formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them
unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every
living creature, that was the name thereof (Gen. 2:19).
And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to
every beast of the field . . . (Gen. 2:20).
Maybe Adam spent a hundred years at the zoo maybe only ten
or twenty; but as he watched each of these animals, he would come up with a
name. The last name he would give was ISHAH. He would watch her and
give her a name, too. But he first had a job to do. He had to “catalog”
creation that is, he had to give a name to all that God had created. Now here’s
the problem: “but for Adam there was not
found an help meet for him.” “Help
meet” is literally “a help over against” him — a counterpart, or a help
responding to him.
Grace is always cognizant of
man’s needs. Man in innocence needed woman. Man needed woman before he needed
salvation! Since man is not complete without woman, nor the woman without the
man, Jesus Christ designed a category of love for the period of innocence. Look
back at verse 18:
And the Lord God [JEHOVAH ELOHIM] said, Not
good the man to be alone. I will manufacture for him a help over against him (responding to him) (Corrected translation).
I want you to notice what
did NOT exist in the state of innocence — Category
Three love! Only Category One and Category Two love existed before the Fall. Between
right man and right woman, there is only
Category Two love. It is the only love in which physical contact is bona fide.
Category Three is NON-TOUCHING! That ought to tell everyone who ever had a
tendency toward any perversion of God’s design that when things were absolutely
perfect no on ever thought of anything but Categories One and Two love. When
JEHOVAH ELOHIM spoke in this verse, it is actually Jesus Christ who is
speaking. He said, “Not good” (there is no verb here, which gives great emphasis).
This statement is part of the Divine Decrees and refers to man without his
right woman. Note that this is the observation of a perfect Person, Jesus
Christ. It also helps us to understand the principle of the relationship
between Christ and the Church, which we will bring in at a later time.
Everything
man had seen in lower creation had a counterpart — an opposite number. There
was a male and a female every species, no matter what it was. This undoubtedly
used Adam to become increasingly aware that he was the only male alone! So
Jesus Christ says, “I will make [ASAH manufacture] for him an help meet [a help responding to him].”
ADAM’S RIB
And the Lord God (JEHOVAH ELOHIM) caused a
deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and
closed up the flesh instead thereof (Gen. 2:21).
The deep sleep
would be equivalent, of course, to a general anesthetic so that Adam would not
feel any pain. The Lord Jesus Christ actually performed the operation. The
man’s soul, remember, had already been manufactured. It is the body of the
woman that requires the operation. Although there are other verbs which could
have been used for “took,” it is very interesting that the verb LAQACH is used here. This generally means in the Hebrew “to seize violently.”
The woman was pulled violently out of Adam, and violently she returns to him!
It’s almost as if the pulling apart and the coming together demonstrates a
fantastic passion. It indicates something of the magnetism and the violent
passion which exists between right man and right woman!
So, “he took out one of his
ribs” or “one from among his ribs.” The word for “ribs” is very interesting.
It’s the feminine noun TSELAH; but it has a third
masculine singular suffix indicating that, although the rib actually belonged
to Adam, it was a feminine rib inside him all that time. TSELAH is not the usual word for rib. TSELAH is ordinarily the word for
a beam or a joist of a building. It is used this way in 1 Kings 6:15, 16 and
7:3 — but we will see shortly that in connection with the woman, this usage is
very apropos. Next, Jesus Christ closed up the hole with flesh.
And the rib, which JEHOVAH ELOHIM had taken from man, made he a woman,
and brought her unto the man (Gen. 2:22).
Now we have in the hands of
the Lord Jesus Christ a rib, and that significant act, which occurred many
thousands of years ago, still has and always will have both good and bad
repercussions. It was a very dramatic moment, because when Jesus Christ was
holding that rib, He was actually holding something that would bring either
great happiness or great unhappiness to the human race. As we have seen, a man may have an otherwise miserable or horrible life;
but if he has his right woman, he has great happiness with her. That in itself
is significant.
This grace gift is for the
entire human race, yet the entire human race does not benefit. There are unbelievers and believers who never have their
right man or right woman. There are also members of the human race who do not benefit from the second grace gift —
salvation. God provides perfectly, but both gifts require human volition.
Part of Adam is now missing,
and out of the missing part Jesus Christ made (BANAH) a woman. The Hebrew word BANAH is very interesting; it actually means TO BUILD. The woman’s body was BUILT! The man’s body was fashioned — JATSAR. There’s a difference. The
woman has a body that is different from anything else in creation. It is
fantastic! A house was constructed for the woman’s soul, and God put that soul
into it. But I want you to notice something: God continued to follow the same
procedure of allowing Adam to identify and name all of the species. The word
for woman here is actually the name which Adam will give her —ISHAH. _ISHAH is one of the Hebrew words that applies to her body.
Then God “brought her unto
the man,” or literally, He “caused to bring her to HA ADAM.” Right here is the
beginning of the principle of right man—right woman. God designed the woman
perfectly for the man. He seized violently the rib out of Adam, and left a gap
which is only fulfilled by that which He BUILT. Then He caused her to be
brought to HA ADAM. That’s the way it still is! If people will wait and observe
the laws of divine establishment, God will provide. And this is a provision for
unbelievers as well. That’s why the laws of divine establishment forbid certain
things such as fornication, homosexuality, autoerotism, and bestiality. If
practiced, any or all of these things get man off the track, and thereby cause
him to lose his capacity for the greatest happiness in life — apart from
salvation and Bible doctrine.
THE RIB RETURNS
And Adam said, this one (she) now bone from my bones, flesh from my
flesh, this one [she] shall be called woman [ISHAH), because this one, [she]
was taken from man [ISH) (Corrected translation of Gen. 2:23).
Jesus Christ has a great
sense of humor. He brought the woman for Adam to name in much the se way as He
had brought the animals. Jesus Christ may have said, “What are you going to
call this one, Adam?” Now Adam was a genius. It took him only a couple of
seconds to realize that he had his counterpart. And what do you suppose he
called her? (SHAH! Woman! And ISHAH she was, and ISHAH she is. One ISHAH issued to one ISH — no more, no less. Perfect
Issue — “P.I.” instead of “G.I.”
There is a woman whose soul
and body are perfectly designed for you, and no one else will quite do — ever.
Now that ought to scare you! A lot of you think that God said, “Thou shah not commit
adultery,” because He didn’t want you to have any fun. To the contrary, God
said it because he WANTED you to have fun FOR LIFE!
If you’re an unbeliever, the greatest fun you’ll ever have is here on earth
with a woman — your right woman — because you’re going to spend eternity in
hell (John 3:36). But just think of BELIEVERS who find their right woman
and, whether they’re spiritual or carnal, have all of this and heaven, too! God
designed woman to be the quintessence of happiness for man. But He didn’t
design EVERY woman to be the
quintessence of your happiness — just one! Polygamy is prohibited by God (Lev.
18:18; Deut. 17:14-17).
Now before Adam named the
woman, he did some explaining. He said, “This now,” or literally, “this one,
she.” There is no verb here. You don’t need verbs at a time like this!
Remember, Jesus Christ is bringing to him the most perfect woman ever formed.
She doesn’t have a thing on and neither does Adam. It just took his breath away
when he saw her! Now for the record — he hasn’t touched her yet. Do you know
why that’s important? The identification was made IN HIS SOUL! But the
identification was very, very physical, even though as yet he has had no
physical experience. Does that tell you something? It should tell you that when
you find the one who is absolutely right for you, the physical aspect of your
relationship presents no problem at all.
“This one, she, bone from my
bones” — Adam knew that something was missing in his life and that this woman would
complete him. What w sing would come back with GRACE
INTEREST! So he adds, “flesh from my flesh, this one, she, shall be called ISHAH.” Why? Because she was taken out of ISH! And he uses the same word for violence, LAQACH, to describe the operation. He hadn’t felt a thing
when she w seized violently from him; but now that he sees what God has made
from his rib, he expresses himself in intensive language — he uses the puel
stem — which tells us that Adam had what we call the “grand passion.”
We have an interesting
switch here: the word for “man” no longer HA ADAM; now we have ISH. Why? Up until this time, man has been alone. He was created
incomplete and can be completed only by the woman. Once the woman is brought
in, they become ISH and ISHAH. When ISHAH is taken from ISH, ISHAH becomes one with ISH; he fulfills her and she completes him. We now have right man and right
woman with the most perfect sex relationship that ever existed.
THE PROTECTION OF RIGHT MAN RIGHT
WOMAN
For this cause a man shall forsake his father and mother, and he shall
be intimately united to his right woman (wife), and they shall become one flesh (Corrected translation of
Gen. 2:24).
Adam doesn’t have a mother
and a father, but the principle must be set up now. Outside of volition (Gen.
2:16, 17), there is only one other principle of establishment in the Garden at
this time — right man—right woman. The framework for this is marriage —
monogamy — Divine Institution Number Two. Now that right man and right woman
are here, something must be designed to protect their relationship. What is
going to keep man, who is the authority in this relationship, from eventually
turning into a tyrant?
God protects the woman from
the tyranny of the man, who has the authority over her, by adding a third divine
institution to the laws of establishment — the family or parents — to accompany
the principle of right man—right woman. Divine Institution Number Three was
designed to protect Divine Institution Number Two. While marriage is the
protection of Category Two love and man is the authority, man learns love and
respect for the woman from his parents. This has never been true in the animal
kingdom, or in the angelic creation — only in the human race. Both the father
and the mother have a contribution to make to teach a boy to have respect for
womanhood, so that when his own woman comes into his life, their relationship
will be the ultimate in happiness.
The boy first learns the principles of authority and
respect for womanhood from his mother; he learns by example from his father.
The father also provides security, protection, discipline, and some training;
but the first teacher n the human realm is the mother. both the father and
mother are mentioned, but the father is mentioned first because he’s the authority
in the home. It is the responsibility of parents to teach the boy to become a
gentleman, so that when he is a man, he will not be an “animal.”
A
boy’s attitude toward his mother often determines what he will be like with his
right woman. If his father treats his mother well, the boy usually follows his
example. The sad thing today is that so many children are not learning
authority and respect from their mothers, and fathers are setting an example of
brutality. As a result, the children never see the gentleness and the
tenderness that can exist between a man and a woman. A boy reacts to this, and
his reaction is always an animal reaction; he often becomes promiscuous,
brutal, or even a rapist.
There is love for womankind
first when a young boy loves and respects his mother. This gives him both the
perspective and the training to fulfill his right woman without abusing his
God-given authority under Divine Institution Number Two. However, a man’s
respect for his mother must never be a hindrance when it’s time for him to
leave his mother and father to enter into a new relationship. This greatest
relationship of his life is described in the next phrase, “and shall cleave (be intimately united) unto his ISHAH” There is no word for “wife”
in the Hebrew language. The trouble with the word “wife” is that today we tend
to connect it with a big wedding ceremony and all of its folderol — yet it’s
just as simple as this: HIS ISHAH! His woman!
Now for the word translated
“cleave.” Most lexicons will give you a few meanings, such as “coalesce,
adhere, to be glued to”; but in this context it means “sexual relationship”!
That’s exactly what it is. Here is the new relationship. When as an adult you
leave the influence of the home, you move into a relationship which is first of
all of the soul, but it is also of the body. The male and female bodies were
designed for that. And isn’t it amazing — after all these thousands of years,
the design hasn’t changed! The woman is still a woman, and the man is still a
man — thank God!
When this verse was quoted in the New Testament, the
word “cleave” was translated “join.” “For this cause shall a man leave his
father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one
flesh” (Eph. 5:31). But the Greek word PROSKOLLAO isn’t joined — it’s
something no animal could ever do. It’s face-to-face sex! The man and the woman
shall be intimately united in sex, and they are one flesh. God has violently
pulled a rib out of Adam, built something fantastic, and then brought her back to
passionate Adam! Now here’s the point: they began their physical relationship
as an expression of right man—right woman love.
And they were both naked, the man and his wife (right woman), and were
not ashamed (confused or disappointed) (Gen. 2:25).
ISH and ISHAH didn’t have any clothes. The first time they ever put on clothes, they
were the wrong clothes (fig leaves). Later God made for them coats of skins,
but they went perhaps for many years without wearing anything. Why were they
not ashamed, confused or disappointed? Because they didn’t have any hang-ups
about their physical relationship. There is no such thing as perversion where
right man and right woman are concerned. Anything to which right man and right
woman BOTH agree is NOT perversion!
THREE
GRACE GIFTS FROM JESUS CHRIST
Now I want to move to 1 Corinthians, Chapter 11, where we find further
information on the subject of “’Adam’s Rib” or right man right woman. In 1
Corinthians 11, two of the greatest grace principles in history are brought together
in one chapter. There are three basic grace gifts from Jesus Christ to the
human race: (1) RIGHT WOMAN (He built it); (2) SALVATION
(He did it); (3) DOCTRINE (He thought it).
Under the first principle —
one right man for one right woman — man neither earns nor deserves this grace
provision. The greatest genius who ever lived could never have thought of such
a thing. Even when Adam was categorizing the various creatures, before woman
had appeared on the scene, he could not have conceived of or devised, in his
wildest imagination, a creature who would completely satisfy the longings of
his soul and the desires of his body. Although the Cross is God’s greatest
demonstration of grace, the woman is God’s walking illustration of grace! She
can satisfy everything for which man’s soul longs, everything his body desires.
She is his completion, fulfillment and glory.
The second grace principle
is illustrated in this passage by the Communion Table, which commemorates the Cross.
Both of these principles were being abused through legalisms All grace gifts
are attacked vigorously by Satan, and legalism is one of his methods. The
legalists had said that the women had to wear veils in the church. While women
did not have hats in the ancient world, they did have veils, and no lady went
outside without se sort of a veil covering her head. However, there were two
kinds of women who were not permitted to wear veils the prostitutes and the
slaves. Of course, slaves and even prostitutes were coming to church in Corinth
(which was the center of prostitution in the Roman Empire). Remember, positive
volition toward Bible doctrine resides in many kinds of people. Now, when these
women walked in with their hair uncovered, the legalists immediately became
critical. They wanted to throw these women out simply because they were not
following the general custom of the day. Their bullying was causing a lot of
trouble for those who were positive toward doctrine.
The last half of the chapter
(verses 17-34) is concerned with believers coming to the Lord’s Table in a
state of inebriation. This is an abuse of the other grace principle, the Cross,
but is not pertinent to our subject. Some of you wear a cross, which is a
symbol of grace. But you ladies who are wearing long hair are also wearing a
sign of grace. Long hair on the woman and the Cross are both emblems of God’s
grace. In the first grace package, Jesus Christ gave woman to man; in the
second, Jesus Christ gave Himself to mankind!
THREE PRINCIPLES OF AUTHORITY
But I intend to have you know, that the head of every nobleman
(believer) is the Christ; and the head of the woman, the man; the head of
Christ, the God (1 Cor. 11:3).
Authority of Christ: Paul begins, not by setting the church
straight on the subject of a hat or a veil on the head of the woman, but by
teaching three basic principles of authority. The first of these is the
authority of Jesus Christ. The word for “head,” KEPHALE,
is used quite extensively in the next two verses, and it means “the head on the
shoulders of the human body” — i.e., the residence of the soul and the spirit.
But it also means “superior rank or authority.” The head contains the brain and
other factors which control and dictate the functions of the human body. “Man”
— ANER — is man in the noble sense — hence, a believer,
either male or female. The superior rank over every believer is Christ, who is
the Head of the Church (Col. 1:18).
Authority of Right Man: Authority in the church leads to authority in
the field of right man right woman relation ship. While this relationship
applies to both believers and unbelievers, we will cover it from the standpoint
of believers only, according to this passage, and apply Bible doctrine to the
situation. In the phrase, “and the superior rank over the woman, the man,”
there is no verb, which places great emphasis on this principle. From the point
of the creation of Homo sapiens, the man is recognized
as the head of the body called the “woman”; was recognized as we shall see, the
short hair on the man is the badge of his authority over the woman.
The Authority of the Father: “And the head of the Christ,
the God,” is God the Father. The authority of the Father over the Son refers to
Jesus Christ in hypostatic union (the God-Man) during His incarnation. “God so
loved the world, that He gave his only begotten Son . . .” (John 3:16). God the
Father had the authority and the rank during the incarnation of Christ. That is
why Jesus said, “Father, if thou be willing, remove this cup from me:
nevertheless NOT MY WILL [the will of
Jesus Christ IN HIS HUMANITY], but THINE [the sovereignty of God the Father] be done” (Luke 22:42). Now the
application is brought into the function of the early church, where two
illustrations are used praying and prophesying.
MAN’S BADGE OF AUTHORITY
Every nobleman praying or
prophesying, having something down over his head, dishonors his head (1 Cor. 11:4).
Here “every man” is used for
a male believer only, in contrast to the female believer in the next verse.
“Praying and prophesying” are both part of the worship service, although
prophesying today is only bona fide through the teaching of the Word of God in
eschatological passages. Up to now, the word “head” has been used for superior
rank; but it now changes to mean the literal head, by the addition of a
prepositional phrase in the Greek, KATA plus KEPHALES. The man has something down over (KATA) his literal
head (KEPHALES). Now what does this mean? It means LONG HAIR.
A man wears short hair if
he’s a man in his thinking. Hair style on a man is strictly a matter of what he
THINKS ..THINKS… THINKS! It all comes from the
soul. If he’s something other than a man, then of course, what comes out of the
top of his head manifests what goes on inside the head. A man who has his hair
long because some doll told him he looked good that way, obviously is a
responder. He has all the male accouterments, but he’s a “woman” in his soul. A
man is to be the authority over the woman, and the badge is his SHORT HAIR! The
woman’s badge of submission is her longer hair.
People often ask, “What are
the signs of the times?” And they expect a dissertation on the Jews going back
into the Land or something on the Communist conspiracy. But the signs of the
times today are reflected in the male’s long hair. Long hair reflects
confusion, rebellion and rejection of the laws of divine establishment. How
long is long hair on a male? “Down over the head” is the standard for a man’s
hair, according to this verse. A good rule of thumb would be that if you can
comb your hair so that it comes down over your eyes or nose, it’s too long!
It’s a veil! And that’s exactly the way “veil” s used here, though you can’t
find the word “veil” in the English — only in the Greek. Long hair, or even a
hat on a man’s head in a church service, covers up his authority as man.
If a man’s wife has hair
shorter than her husband’s, it indicates that she dominates — she is the
aggressor, and this principle has been violated. Hair is the sign. You may have
thought that hair was designed only for beauty, and this is partly true for the
woman. The most beautiful thing God ever built was the woman, and her hair is
her visible glory. However, it is also designed to be her badge of submission
to her right man.
Now, when a male
believer prays or prophesies having “something down over his head,” he
dishonors his head. I love the humor here. “Something down over his head,” KATA
KEPHALES, is something over his LITERAL head; but he dishonors his KEPHALE — his head or authority! This is what is called a
“thought paronomasia,” and it is very humorous in the Greek. The same word is
used, but it means two different things: a physical head and superior rank.
KATA KEPHALES indicates that a man is growing his own veil, and it’s a
disgrace. He disgraces grace! It’s actually not a question of how it looks; the
problem is the condition in the soul, and the condition in the soul is wrong.
More often than not, long hair is an outward sign of rebellion against God and
God’s design.
Long hair
dishonors the man’s authority over the woman ; but more than that, it dishonors
Jesus Christ. Who designed the woman? Jesus Christ, the SAME ONE who went to
the Cross and bore your sins! And He gave the woman first. Down through the
ages man has rejected the principle of right man—right woman — through
fornication, adultery, homosexuality, autoerotism, and other perversions. Now,
let’s see this from the standpoint of the woman.
THE WOMAN’S BADGE OF SUBMISSION
But every woman praying and prophesying with the head unveiled
dishonors her head; for it is one and the same as if she had been shaved (1 Cor. 11:5).
We
have a word in this verse that we must examine AKATAKALUPTOS. We’ll see this word without the “A” later on. This is a very rare Greek
word in the New Testament.
“A” indicates a negative; KATA means “down,” KALUPTOS, “hidden” (something hidden
and down). “Hidden and down” a veil. KATAKALUPTOS is the veil that goes over
the feminine head and face. The addition of “A” means literally, with the head UNVEILED.” Paul is using a clever piece of sarcasm here. The
legalists don’t realize that he is not talking about hats or veils, but about
hair. He has already set up the thought paronomasia in relation to the man’s
hair, and when he gets all the legalists nodding, he will lower the boom!
So far, the legalists have
been agreeing with everything Paul has said in principle. Now Paul goes on:
“But every woman praying and prophesying with the head unveiled disgraces her
head . . . .” The legalists are still nodding: “Amen brother, if a woman isn’t
veiled, she disgraces her head!” But what they fail to recognize, because Paul
hasn’t actually said it yet, is that the veil is her hair!
The woman’s head is covered
with hair. God designed her hair, as well as her body, to be different from the
man’s. Her hair is a sign of submission both to God and to her right man.
Therefore, the veil is the woman’s hair a veil which nature has provided. But the
woman’s hair must be long, just as the m ‘s hair must be short. In this way,
both recognize not only God’s grace provision in Category Two love but the
principle of establishment as well. A prostitute is a woman who has rejected
the authority of one man and sold her body to any or all; therefore, Paul makes
the analogy to the prostitutes of that day who had been branded or punished by
the shaving of their heads. It was a sign of disgrace, and it is still the
custom today. During World War II women who fraternized with
the enemy were subjected to having their heads shaved. Paul is simply in the
process of clarifying the criticism and also adding some principles of doctrine
with regard to right man—right woman.
For if a woman does not veil herself [be not covered], shave her; but
if it be indecent for a woman to have her hair cut off or shaved, keep on
veiling her
(1 Cor. 11:6).
Paul is saying in effect
that if a woman does not have long
hair so that is hangs down over her face like a veil, then shave it off! Here is his sanctified sarcasm. While
the legalists are nodding their heads because they’re thinking of literal
veils, Paul is getting ready to shock them by saying that the veil is actually
the woman’s hair! This is a debater’s technique well a sarcasm. It is, of
course, a bad moment for the women without veils who are listening to the
reading of Paul’s dissertation; but he is making a great stand against
legalism. The legalists say that a woman is uncovered if she doesn’t wear a
veil (today it would be a hat). Paul says that the only way a woman can come to
church and be uncovered is to have her hair shaved off!
The sarcasm is completed but reversed at the end of
verse 6. Paul uses two different words for “shave” in this verse. The first, KEIRO, means to take some kind of a knife cutting tool and shave off the hair
right down to the scalp. The other, ZURAO, means to use the knife edge to cut it down close. So he says,
“If it’s indecent for a woman to have her hair cut off or shaved, keep on veiling her.” To the legalists,
this still means that she must wear a veil or hat. But Paul is still working up
to his coup de grace: the woman’s hair is her veil, and it is the sign of her
submission to her right man. The issue is not hats — but doctrine!
MAN, THE GLORY OF GOD
For indeed, a man (nobleman, believer) ought not to veil his head, existing as the image and glory of
God: but the woman is the glory of the man (1 Cor. 11:7).
Here is the application: OPHEILO plus OUK plus KATAKALUPTO — “that which hides the
face when it’s down” — comes to mean “veil,” but it is used for anything
falling over the head. It is saying, in effect, that a man ought not to have hair long enough to cover his face. We
know this from Paul’s conclusion in verses 14 and 15. But first he gives the
reasons: man exists as the image and glory of God! Now, even though man is
fallen, even though he is a sinner and has a sin nature, man still exists; and
in a regenerate state he can glorify God under the principle of spirituality.
“Image” has to do with the essence of his
soul as it came from the hand of God, while “glory” refers to the edification
complex of the soul” and to the supergrace life,” both of which a to the
believer through a maximum intake of Bible doctrine. The soul of man is designed
to respond to God. When he does so, he glorifies God.
WOMAN, THE GLORY OF MAN
“Exist”
is not used in connection with the woman. Man exists as her authority; but
she “keeps on being” (EIMI — absolute status quo) under
the authority of her right man, and as such, she is the glory of the man. The
woman has a soul and a body which are the glory of the man, and the sign of
this is her hair. “Glory” here indicates the right woman both as a responder to
her right man and as an illustration of God’s grace. It is God’s grace when any
believer has an edification complex. It is also God’s grace when a right woman
responds to her right man. We have two reasons now for the man to have short
hair and the woman long hair recognition of the authority of God, and
recognition that God has placed man in authority over the woman.
The concept of verse 7 will
be continued in verse 13. Verses 812 are parenthetical, and in this section we
will learn some new things about the doctrine of right man right woman.
For man is not out from the source of woman, but woman out from the
source of man (1
Cor. 11:8).
“For” (GAR — an epexegetical explanation) is used to begin a parenthesis and to
amplify what has just been said. This verse not only states the order of
creation, but the order of right man right woman at the point of origin. There
was an elapse of time before woman came along. Man existed first, and that is
the point of his having short hair and the woman’s having long hair the recognition
of his authority and of the first great grace gift from Jesus Christ. Jesus
Christ violently pulled the rib out from the man, and in all her glory ISHAH came violently and passionately back to ISH!
For also man was not created because of the woman; but woman because of
man (1 Cor.
11:9).
The woman was created for
the man. Whatever man lacks in shortness of hair, she makes up for it, and
although man is the authority, he is incomplete. A general may be in command,
but he is incomplete without a army. So man, “wearing his rank on his head,” is
incomplete without ISHAH. God did a very humorous
thing: He put long hair on the woman to remind man that, while he has authority
over her, he is nothing without her. He is a little short on hair to remind him
that he’s a little short without woman — God’s right woman for him — God’s
grace package in flesh form! The greatest form of human happiness for a woman
is to be fulfilled by her right man, and the greatest in human happiness for a
man is to be completed by his right woman. There is nothing to compare with
this happiness outside of the spiritual realm.
HAIR: THE LONG AND THE SHORT OF IT
Because of this the woman ought to have authority (of her right man)
upon the head because of the angels (1 Cor. 11:10).
EXZOUSIA, mistranslated
“power,” is always “authority,” and it is always used in grace principle. It is
used here for right man right woman. It is used in John 1:12 for salvation:
But as many a received him, to them gave he AUTHORITY (EXZOUSIA] to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his
name.
“Because of this”
— because the woman was designed for right man . . . because of Category Two
love . . . because the man has authority over the woman . . . because the woman
is an empty vessel designed to respond to the right man — the woman ought to
wear the badge of her design on her head! God designed her head to be covered
with the sign that the man is her authority. Her head is veiled with long hair;
his head has short hair to show that he is HEAD over the woman!
Extreme shortness
of hair on the woman is often a sign of soul kink, some hang-up. It represents
mental attitude sins, reversionism or reverse process reversionism, which are
the great enemies of the right man—right woman relationship. In the practice of
reverse process reversionism, the woman fornicates with inconsequential
persons. She responds to the wrong man — “operation nymphomania”; she goes for
women” — operation lesbianism”; with animals” — operation bestiality,” or she
responds to herself” — operation masturbation.” These are all manifestations of
reversionism and are perversions of Category Two love. This is why a woman
condemned under these conditions had her hair publicly shaved in the ancient
world.
There’s a time in a girl’s
life when almost anything that wears trousers looks good. Theoretically she
gets over that; but all of her life she’s going to see men that are attractive
to her for one reason or another. That isn’t why a woman wears long hair a she
is not at the disposal of any man who is attractive to her. There is only one
man who is her right man, and that’s it — period! A doctrinally oriented woman
with long hair is saying, “I recognize the grace of God. He has given me a man.
I am an empty vessel without this man. There
is only one man that can fulfill me. There is only one man who can turn me
on (the ‘burning’ of 1 Cor. 7:9) or who
can turn me into a true
woman only one — not a dog, not another woman,
not the wrong man, and not even an angel!” These are pseudo-lovers!
A woman should wear her hair
long as a reminder to angelic creation as well as to the human race. Women are
designed for men of the human race only — not for angels. Why? Our first clue
is found in Genesis 6:19. The angels had been observing the woman and “clipped”
over her. Finally, when there was an excess of women during the period before
the flood, the angels decided to get into the picture. At that time the angels
had the capability of cohabitation and e able to produce children by means of
angelic infiltration into the human race. These children became the great super
heroes of the ancient world, the heroes of Greek and Roman mythology. These
supermen — such as Castor and Pollox, Achilles, Hercules, etc. — all had human
mothers and “gods” for fathers.
The fact that the women
submitted to the angels indicates that these women were “wearing their hair too
short”; they failed to recognize what God had provided! Of course, the time before
the flood was one of the greatest periods of apostasy in human history. God put
a stop to the cohabitation of angels after Genesis 6 so that Satan would never
be able to use that strategy again; however, the principle remains because of
the angelic conflict. Before the flood, the tong hair on the woman was to
remind angels that women were off limits to them. After the flood, it’s to
remind angels of God’s grace in the woman’s function in this stage of the
angelic conflict.
THE FULFILLMENT OF RIGHT MAN RIGHT WOMAN
Besides, neither woman apart from man, nor man apart from woman, by the
Lord (1 Cor. 11:11).
This is a very interesting
verse. There are no verbs; hence, there is great emphasis on this point of
doctrine. “Besides” is an adverb designed to qualify man’s authority over the
woman. What is the qualificaton? Man’s authority over his right woman was never
designed to be a tyranny, but a mutual fulfillment. When two become one — right
man—right woman — they are totally dependent upon each other. They will never
be anything without the other again. Each sex is incomplete without the other.
But notice, this is not just a hit-or-miss thing, because one more point is
added: “by means of the Lord.” It is the Lord’s design! The only exception to
this is the gift or the consecration of celibacy under the principle of supreme
sacrifice, as in the case of the Apostle Paul.
For just as the woman out from the source of man,
even so also the man through the woman. But the all things out from the source
of God (1 Cor. 11:12).
Just as before the Fall man
was incomplete without his right woman, so after the Fall man cannot exist
without the woman. Since the Fall, man owes his origin, his existence and his
fulfillment to womankind. First there is his mother — Divine Institution Number
Three. Then the time comes when the man leaves his father and mother to go to
his right woman. Man’s fulfillment from the source of his right woman is part
of Divine Institution Number Two. One of the greatest problems in marriage is NOT the woman who “goes home to mother,” but the “boy” who never cuts the
umbilical cord!
The “all things out from the
source of God” here are parents and right man—right woman, but the emphasis is
on the “all things” in the life of a man — his mother and his right woman. This
is something which is absolutely fantastic – a grace gift from God to the human
race. The only thing that keeps a man from becoming an animal in his life — his
mother and his right woman! With few exceptions, to all of history no man was
ever a man without the training of his mother and the fulfillment of his right
woman.
This ends the parenthesis,
and verse 13 takes us back to the subject
of the short hair of the man and the long hair of the woman.
THE DISCERNMENT OF DOCTRINE
Discern by means of yourselves, is it
proper for a woman unveiled to pray to God? (1 Cor. 11:13).
Here we n appeal to common sense. Common sense is not
common to the human race. It is actually the bridge between God’s revelation
and knowledge of doctrine which we have assimilated through the grace apparatus
for perception. “Discernment” is the application of Biblical common sense to
the situation.
Now women like to be proper. Is it proper for a
woman to pray to God unveiled? And here’s that rare word again — AKATAKALUPTOS — something that hangs down so that it hides the
face. In other words, is it proper to pray without long hair? If a woman has
her hair cut above her ears, it is usually a sign that she has already rejected
God’s order and design. Therefore, if she is in rebellion toward God, common
sense tells you that her prayers not be answered!
Both common sense and
propriety demand longer hair on a woman, n matters what she is doing. Her long
hair, as we have seen in verse 7, is her glory; it is her recognition of divine
provision. This is her submission to God while she waits for Him to bring her
to the man of His design at the right time under the right conditions. If the
woman does not recognize God’s authority, she will never recognize the
authority of her right man. Here is where her relationship to God and her
relationship to her right man meet. The woman who has scar tissue, emotional
revolt, reversionism and negative volition toward doctrine does not have the
capacity for either Category One love (illustrated here by prayer) or Category
Two love. Some men are intolerant of their wives’ attending Bible class. But by
bucking the tiger in this respect, they are destroying her capacities and their
own authority. So Bible doctrine becomes important as the means of recognizing
the principle of right man—right woman. Because of this danger, the next verse
switches to the male. In effect, there are two witnesses against a man’s having
long hair — Bible doctrine and nature.
THE DEMONSTRATION OF NATURE
Does not even
nature (in addition to doctrine) communicate to all of you that if a man wears
long hair, it is a dishonor to him? (1 Cor. 11:14).
“Nature” means God’s laws in
the natural realm. Just as God has laws of establishment in the human realm, so
God has laws with regard to nature. The term “nature” is really a misnomer. The
Greek word PHUSIS refers to the laws of the
function of nature within a species, which also vary within the species. Here
we are talking about Homo sapien — mankind. The fact that a woman with long
hair naturally looks like a woman and a man with short hair looks like a man is
the principle which is being taught here.
But there is also another
principle: in the animal kingdom, the male has the beauty; he has the mane or
the ruff or the bright feathers. In Homo sapiens it is the antithesis. The man
was never designed to be beautiful He can be attractive or even handsome, but
it is the female who has the beauty. A lot of you men are fat-headed about the
way you look, but how you look doesn’t mean a thing. It’s how the woman looks
that counts. Why? It’s the woman who completes you, and her beauty is a part of
it. I have never seen a male who thought he was handsome who had the capacity
to love or to satisfy his right woman. He’s too busy primping and strutting
like a peacock!
Both nature and doctrine
coincide in the area of right man and right woman. The differences in the male
and the female body are nature’s demonstration of this principle. Desires of
soul and body are another testimony of nature. Nowhere is a third: long hair is
out of place on the head of the man. Only under certain extreme circumstances,
such as prolonged battlefield conditions, is long hair not a dishonor to the
man. If a man wears long hair regardless of fashion, regardless of the period
of history it is always a dishonor to him. It is dishonorable because the man
is wearing the woman’s badge of submission! Long hair on a man is a result of
the condition of his soul — scar tissue, emotional revolt and reversionism —
just as extremely short hair is on a woman. Furthermore, it is a sign of a
feminine soul in the man, as well as rebellion against God’s design—against
God’s perfect divine law—and against the first grace gift ever given to the
human race.
THE SIGNIFICANCE OF WOMAN’S
LONG HAIR
But if a woman wears long hair, it is a glory to her,
because her hair has been given to her instead of a veil (covering) (1 Cor.
11:15).
We now have a contrast
between the short hair of the man and the long hair of the woman. When a man
wears long hair, it’s a disgrace; but when a woman wears long hair, it’s a veil
of honor a sign of her recognition of God’s provision of a right man. “If,” in
both verses 14 and 15, is a third class condition and recognizes the volition
of both male and female. A woman can cut her hair just as a man can let his
grow long.
“But if a woman wears long hair, it is a glory to her.”
The next phrase is very
important as it stands in the Greek text. The veil or covering is a literal
veil, a hat, a bonnet, or anything that a woman might put on her head. “To her”
is the dative of advantage. It is to her advantage to receive her right man, to
complete him. She fulfills him as he fulfills her; and her long hair is not
only beautiful, but it represents her positive volition toward her right man,
her capacity to love, her freedom from mental attitude sins, scar tissue,
emotional revolt, reversionism, and the perversions of reverse process
reversionism.
“Her hair has been given”
again emphasizes the first gift of Jesus Christ to the human race; and it is in
the perfect tense, indicating the permanence of this principle. From the Garden
to the end of the Millennium, the principle of the woman’s long hair is always
the same. It is the sign, just as the rainbow in the sky is a sign. The rainbow
means that God will never again destroy the earth by flood, while the long hair
of the woman demonstrates that God has provided in every generation a right man
for a right woman.
However, it is not “FOR a covering” but, “INSTEAD OF a covering [or a veil].” And this is
where the legalists have had it! her HAIR has been given to her
instead of a covering! God has never laid down any rules for women to wear
hats! This has merely become a custom. Obviously there was a time when the
wearing of veils was a good thing in many ways; but it was still unnecessary,
according to God’s standards. Every an has been given glory by God, and even
nature demonstrates the point!
But if anyone presumes to be contentious (rejecting authority), we have
not this kind of a custom — neither the churches of God (1 Cor. 11:16).
Of course, there are always
rebels, as in verse 16, and they can be male or female. Those who have scar
tissue or are in emotional revolt or reversionism and who reject authority,
become contentious or quarrelsome. Paul puts them down by stating flatly that
there is no such custom as wearing some kind of headgear in church. Thank God
we have such a passage because of the erroneous idea that women must wear hats
or veils in church! This bas come from a misinterpretation of this passage or
imply because ladies have been taught that a “proper lady” wears a hat in
church. Hats are not desirable in church for several reasons — visibility,
concentration, and even the danger of mental attitude sins of competition with
other women. The church is no place for anything but the glory of the Lord, and
the glory of the Lord is overtly demonstrated in two ways in this passage: by
man’s short hair, in contrast to the woman’s long hair, and by the Communion
Table which 1 Corinthians 11 goes on to explain.
But our study
switches to a negative aspect, as found in Proverbs 5, where we see the problem
of pseudo-love.
DOCTRINE, GUARDIAN OF THE SOUL AND BODY
In my opinion, the man who
translated Proverbs 5 was so sheltered he never saw a woman! You will see why
when we get into the translation. I am sure that for some of you the literal
translation of this passage will be a shock; but I have to tell you what’s
really here, and I’m not going to pull any punches! It’s the Word of God — and
it’s life; so we might as well face reality and learn what God has for us here.
It may save some of you greater shock later on!
My son, concentrate on doctrine; extend your ear to my understanding (Prov. 5:1).
“My son” indicates that
Solomon has recorded the doctrine which his father, David, taught him. David
made a few mistakes himself, and of course he didn’t want Solomon to repeat
them although Solomon did repeat David’s mistakes a thousand times. Now, how
are you going to learn? The ear is an organ of learning. To “extend the ear”
means “to accept my (David’s) authority as a teacher.” The mother teaches the
son up to a certain age; then the father must begin to teach things to the
young m as David did to Solomon. The word for “understanding” refers to the
application of doctrine to the life — so LEARN and then APPLY!
To guard against
divisiveness; as for knowledge, that your lips may guard it (Prov. 5:2).
“Divisiveness” is in the
feminine gender; therefore, we know this is a warning to guard against the
divisiveness of a reversionistic woman — the wrong woman, who can lure the man into
fornication and min him for his right woman. The thought is broken in the
second half of the verse, and he goes back to doctrine. There are two different
words for “guard” in this verse: SHAMAR, the first word, m “to guard
your soul.” The second word, NATSAR, is “to guard physically, to
guard your body.” Every man must guard his soul and his body and therefore
preserve them for his right woman. When you put the first two verses together,
they tell us that every
n must guard his soul and his body through BIBLE
DOCTRINE. Taking in doctrine and learning its application is the greatest way
to wait for the right woman or the right
THE DEVISIVE WOMAN
For distilled honey (intoxicating sweetness) drips from the lips of her that is loathsome
[reversionistic] and smoother (more flattering) than oil is the inside of her
mouth (Prov. 5:3).
Here is the description of
the devisive or wrong woman. This kind of woman knows how to lead a man on. Her
words are as the sweetness of honey dripping from the lips. She has a way with
words that sets him on fire. This is why he has to be alert in his soul. His
soul has to be protected from this doll. There is one part of the woman’s body
that is always visible to the man under circumstances of intimacy, and that’s
her mouth. But the Hebrew word means “the inside of the mouth.” Today we would
call such intimacy the “French kiss.” In other words, she hadn’t talked very
long before they were French kissing! Her kisses were nice, but deceitful!
But the latter end of her becomes bitter like wormwood — sharp as a
two-edged sword (Prov. 5:4).
We’re not filled in on all
the details, but we understand that the intimacy ended in fornication. This is
saying that the consequence of sex with her is the bitter curse of wormwood.
Why is it bitter when it started out to be so much fun? She is not his right
woman! He is not her right man! Wormwood is a poisonous plant found in
Palestine. Although it has a bitter taste, it was used as a drug because it
apparently had some kind of exhilarating effect. The users chewed it to get
“high.” Of course it was fun while it was being chewed, but it always left a
terrible hangover. It poisoned the body!
The plant represents
bitterness, sorrow and calamity (Cf. Lam. 3:15, 19; Amos 5:7). It was used in
connection with reversionism in the practice of the phallic cult” in
Deuteronomy 29:18; Jeremiah 9:15; and 23:15. In other words, the affair has a
bitter ending. David is saying to Solomon, “Wait, wait, wait, boy!” Solomon
says, “Sure, sure, Dad!” And he goes right out and gets involved with many
wrong women reversionistic women (1 Kgs. 11:18).
This type of woman is an
inconsequential person to a man. He should be waiting for someone wonderful.
And to the extent that he fools around this way, it will be bitter, bitter,
bitter! It may destroy his capacity for right woman and vice versa. Let’s
remember, this is always a two-way street. When the wrong woman or the wrong
man gets his hooks into you whether you are male or female, it’s like being
stabbed with a very short sword; it’s like being poisoned!
PATHWAY TO DESTRUCTION
Her seductive feet are going down to death; her sexy, mincing steps
embrace the grave (Pro, 5:5).
This woman has just wrecked
a man; now we follow her down the pathway to destruction. The ladies in the
ancient world did not display as much of the body as do ladies in our day.
Their heads and their feet were about all that were visible. I dare say that
few men today are turned on by a woman’s feet. But in those days a woman’s feet
were one of her methods of seduction, and her feet used for seduction were
going down to death, MAWETH. MAWETH is derived from a Hebrew verb which means “to stretch like a corpse.”
This is a description of the sin unto death. She isn’t going to hell, as it
says in the English. “My son” a believer; the
woman is a believer. This
will head off at the pass those of you who think that promiscuity is practiced
only by unbelievers.
“Her steps” connotes a sexy
walk as a “come-on.” These women usually wore ornamental ankle chains and tiny
bells to call attention to their sexy steps. But get this: her sexy walk
EMBRACES THE GRAVE. Every time she embraces a man who is not her right man,
every time she fornicates, she s taking another step toward getting in bed with
the grave.
That’s actually what it is
saying. It’s very humorous! She prides herself on how great she is on her back,
so she is going to wind upon her back in wooden box! No woman can afford
promiscuity, nor can a man. God has designed something wonderful for those who
wait. Those who don’t wait lose something wonderful. Even if they find their
right man or right woman, they have a difficult time. Their reputation breeds
suspicion and it produces mental attitude sins.
This passage is particularly
applicable to you single people who are still waiting. Just keep on waiting! No
one ever gains by fornicating around. After all, you re waiting for something
that’s the quintessence of human happiness.
You’re waiting for something
that God provided for you in eternity past.
WARNING AND ADVICE
Perhaps you
should consider her manner of lives (instability and unfaithfulness); her
manner of life avers back and forth you do not know her (Prov. 5:6).
“Perhaps,” David continues to
warn Solomon, “you should take so academic advice while you still have a chance
— you should consider her manner of lives. Before you get taken in by this
beautiful, attractive, seductive doll, you’d better remember that she has had
many lovers, many acts of social, mental and sexual unfaithfulness. She’s gone
to bed with fifty men, and you’re fifty-one! What makes you think you’re so
special? You’re not her right man; you’re just another victim, another sucker.
You’re another ‘wormwood’ in the making, and she’s another step closer to an
affair with the grave. You just help her along!”
“Her manner of life is a
dead end. She’s full of scar tissue. She has no capacity to love you. She’ll
say all the right words to turn you n; but she has you so fooled and faked out
that you think you’re the greatest thing in the world. But you don’t understand
her. She’s already looking past you to the next conquest.” Now you se where the
father’s teaching becomes necessary. The mother brings in respect for
womanhood. Then the father tempers it with his wisdom.
Listen to me now sons, and do not depart (deviate) from the words of my
mouth
(Prov. 5:7).
Although David is speaking
to his sons, it is also the Holy Spirit speaking through David to all believers
(2 Sam. 23:2). And I want you to remember that as we get into this next
section. God the Holy Spirit has seen fit to enlighten us with regard to the
first great grace gift, and He has done so in very plain and lucid language. If
you tend toward prudishness or asceticism and think this is too personal, YOU are out of line! Every jot and tittle of the Word of God is the
THINKING OF JESUS CHRIST — and don’t you forget it!
Sex
between right man and right woman is a grace gift from Jesus Christ. There’s
nothing bad about it; it’s good! It’s great! There was never a grace gift that
was wrong or bad or that must be treated in a hush-hush manner. The first grace
gift had to come in order for a greater grace gift to come. The incarnation of
Jesus Christ could not occur until we have woman, who gives birth to children
and has all the accouterments for it! I want you to understand that we are
dealing with the Word of God; we are dealing with doctrine and with grace
principles. There’s just as much grace in sex as there is in the food on your
table.
AVOID TEMPTATION
Get you way of life far away from over
above her, and do not come near the door of her house (Prov. 5:8).
“From over above her” is one
of the ways of describing the sex act. In other words, remove your sex life
from her vicinity! Don’t even approach the door of her house. Why not?
Lest you give your glory [sex] to the pseudos, and your years [of
sexual vigor] to the cruel or vindictive [reversionistic woman] (Prov.
5:9).
David is anxious for his sons
to wait for their right women. Each will face temptations which will cause them
to deviate from this principle. It’s important that they stay on the main
track. Otherwise, sex becomes an idol, as we will see in verses 21 and 22, and
every affair is a chain or a cord binding them to this idol. Verse 9 begins
with the word “lest” to head you off at the pass a warning to avoid an affair
with the wrong woman while it is still only a temptation. Whenever you find
“glory” in Scripture, it is something that belongs to God and that God shares
only through grace.
You never earn it. “Glory” here is man’s ability to fulfill a
woman sexually. But watch it — ONE WOMAN! The glory of the man is his RIGHT
WOMAN. When he provides sex for his right woman, she becomes gloriously
animated. She is glorious! The right woman is designed to be insatiable, and
her right man is the only person who has the key to her lock; he is the only
person who has the ability to satisfy and fulfill her — soul and body. Every
time a man gets in bed with a wrong woman, he has given his glory to someone
else — not to his right woman. Now
you may think that you’re a sex athlete and
God’s gift to women, and that you have enough glory to pass around to every woman in the world! If you do,
God’s Word says you’ve had it! Now listen, men, your glory, your sex all of it
belongs to one woman not to several, not to a boy, not to an animal, and not to
yourself! One woman!
Time is usually measured in
days, but time wasted in fornication is called “years.” When you give your
glory to a reversionistic woman, this type of woman is vindictive and will take
the glory and turn it to bitterness. This is known as “operation boomerang.”
But when you give your glory to the right woman, she REFLECTS your glory. Her long hair is the sign that she’s
designed to do so.
THE CONSEQUENCES OF PROMISCUITY
Lest
promiscuous women become satiated with you vigor, and your earthen vessel
shattered in a whorehouse (Prov. 5:10).
And you groan
in distress at your end, when your flesh (body) and your phallus are ruined (Prov. 5:11).
The word translated
“strangers” in your English Bible is the word we are going to see frequently
throughout the rest of the passage. The stranger here is the woman who is
promiscuous, who is a chippie or a whore, who is just “free and easy.”
Remember, the woman is insatiable; and when an insatiable woman latches on to
the wrong man, he is squandering his wealth or vigor by satiating a promiscuous
woman. This has to do with sexual performance. It can be translated
academically, “Lest adulteresses be satiated with your sex performance.”
This section is emphasizing
the male, but the “vessel” can refer to either the male or female body. The man
who gives his body to a whore has shattered it for his right woman, and vice
versa. He kept taking his earthen vessel — his human body — to a whorehouse or
its equivalent, until finally one day it had wasted away. And what does he do?
He groans in distress when his body functions fail. For the male, the end
result of fornication is frustration, unhappiness and finally, impotence. The
female either becomes a nymphomaniac and is totally indiscriminate, or she
becomes completely and totally frustrated to the point that she is regarded as
sexless. Both the general health and the genital system are adversely affected
by sex with the wrong man or wrong woman.
And say
[groan], Eck, I have hated disciplinary warning, and my right lobe despised and
ridiculed corrective punishment (Prov. 5:12).
Now we get to the death cry
of the roe. He cries, “Eeeek!” That’s the screeching of the brakes as the whole
gear box falls apart. It’s like the final wailing trumpet of the bull elephant
as he leaves the herd and goes off alone to die. Now the roue had a warning or
two, but he refused to listen. He rejected discipline and authority under the
principle of the laws of divine establishment. And here is a young man whose
parental and pastoral warnings not only went unheeded but were ridiculed.
And I have not listened and obeyed the voice of my instructors, nor
concentrated on the message of those who have taught me (Prov. 5:13).
Connecting this with the
foregoing verses, the point he is making is that if people would use the organ
of perception, they would use the organ of sex to better advantage. But
Solomon, who wrote this after it had been fulfilled, admittedly failed.
Shortly I was in all evil in both the worship
assembly and in the function of the nation (Prov. 5:14).
“In all evil” refers to his reversionism
plus the practice of reverse process reversionism in Category Two love — hence,
Solomon’s promiscuity. Why was he in this situation? Because he had refused to
listen to his pastor and his teachers in the worship assembly, as well as to
the instruction of his n father. Negative volition toward doctrine led to scar
tissue, emotional revolt and reversionism. This, in turn, led to the rejection
of the principle and doctrine of right man right woman. The inevitable result
was fornication and promiscuity. As far as the function of the nation was
concerned, Solomon was the king, and it is difficult for a people to rise above
the failure and apostasy of its leadership.
The rest of this chapter is
vitally important to the doctrine of right man—right woman; yet it is so poorly
translated and so obscured by anachronism that it’s almost impossible for
anyone to derive the intended blessing from this passage as it stands in the
Authorized Version. It is intended not only to emphasize the first of the three
great gifts from God the Son — right man—right woman — but also to ward off its
many dangers and enemies. The fact that God has designed one right man for one
right woman does not guarantee automatic happiness or that everyone will find
his right woman or right man. Therefore, in verse 15 we have an analogy which
is always used in connection with grace gifts.
THE PROHIBITION OF ADULTERY
Drink waters
of pleasure from your own cistern, and flowing waters from your own well (Prov. 5:15).
First of all, there is a
command to drink water. Water, as an analogy of grace, is used three ways in
the Word of God. Here, water is the RIGHT WOMAN. Water in Isaiah 55:1 is SALVATION. Water in Ephesians 5:26 is DOCTRINE. And once again we have the three great grace gifts
from God to man. The command to drink indicates that all grace gifts must be
received. However, this word literally means “to drink and enjoy it” or “to
drink and have your thirst quenched.” It has a meaning of living it up in a
good sense. In this context, it is used for the man who is sexually thirsty for
his right woman. His thirst is quenched, and he is gratified in his
relationship with her. This is one of the greatest happinesses of life. All of
the great happinesses of life are related to the gifts of grace.
“Waters of pleasure” is
plural because there are many acts of sexual relationship between right man and
right woman. But please notice: “from your OWN WELL.” There are many acts of
“drinking,” but one well — one right woman. A cistern, in Hebrew phraseology,
refers to a covered well (cf. 2 Kgs. 18:31). The right woman is covered to
everyone else. Who pulls the cover off the well? Only the right man. She is
designed to be appreciated by on man only. Therefore, the right woman should be
discreet in her dress. You can always tell a woman who isn’t a right woman —
she’s advertising! A right woman who is satisfied isn’t concerned with
displaying herself; and while she dresses as tastefully as possible, obviously
she does not try to attract other men with her dress. A woman who is flirty,
who wears her clothing a little too short or cut a little too low, is obviously
not a “cistern.” She is on the prowl, and she is easily detected by those with
doctrine or discernment.
The second phrase, “flowing
waters,” repeats the same principle. However, this time, since the water
running, the well is not covered. So we have a different Hebrew word. The first
word indicates the outside — the well is covered. But where the right man is,
the well is NOT COVERED. The “flowing waters” describe the sex response of a
woman to her right man. “Flowing” has another beautiful connotation. When you
are in the water, it always accommodates itself perfectly to your body. That’s
the key here. In divine design there is a perfect physical coalescence. Divine
design programmed the right woman fox the right man only. Therefore, ADULTERY
IS PROHIBITED. If either man or woman fornicates under reverse process
reversionism, they destroy their programming.
A third analogy from this
verse is that as the waters flow to slake the thirst of man, so the sexual
response of the woman gives complete satisfaction. Nothing really quenches the
thirst like plain, cool water; and no matter how plain a woman may appear
overtly, she was designed by God to satisfy the thirst of one man. Once again,
David is trying to teach Solomon: wait for your right woman; she is the only
one who can slake your thirst!
A fourth analogy is that
when anyone swallows cool or cold water, the body heat immediately takes care
of it. By the time it reaches the stomach, it is warmer than it was before; it
adjusts itself to the body temperature. Just so, in the relationship between
right man and right woman, the woman also satisfied; however, the danger is
that if she enters into fornication or adultery, she becomes dissatisfied and
frustrated. In her frustration, she is willing to give herself to anyone in the
hope that just around the corner there will be some man who will satisfy her
physically. She is trying to find divine design, but she’s going about it in
the wrong way. It’s like the water jumping out of the well and splashing itself
on every stranger who walks by. A
well is not designed to do that. The water
waits in the well for the one who has a right to drink there. If the water is all splashed out
through fornication, by the time the right one comes along, there is nothing in
the well but sand; and I have never seen anyone yet who was satisfied with a
bucket of sand when he wanted water!
There is a further analogy
of this principle in Song of Solomon 4:12: “A garden enclosed is my sister, my
spouse; a spring shut up, a fountain sealed.” The “fountain sealed” is a
virgin. Here is a woman who is holding all of her water for the quenching of
the thirst of her right man. In these days of apostasy, we have the new sex
movement in which you are supposed to experiment or shop around until you find
what you want. But the Word of God teaches that this destroys the programming
for right man—right woman, and that the greatest relationship between right m
and right woman when both of them have waited. This eliminates hang-ups and
problems, and their relationship becomes a very beautiful thing.
Another verse, which is
closely related to the analogy in Proverbs 5:15, is found in Proverbs 23:27:
“For a whore is a deep ditch; and a strange woman is a narrow pit.” It is
impossible to get water out of a deep ditch; therefore, the person who goes to
the deep ditch or the narrow pit for the alleviation of thirst never succeeds.
In other words, a person who goes to a whore to satisfy his libido is not going
to have his soul thirst satisfied. The water cannot be reached.
It was also
dangerous to drink from open ditches. The water was polluted. Therefore, not
only does one not receive the quenching of thirst from the deep ditch, but one
might pick up disease. By analogy, of course, this would be venereal disease.
It was safe to drink only from your cistern, which was a covered storage for
rainwater, or to drink running water, which was pure. Even though a man and a
woman thrown together under the circumstances of prostitution might have been
programmed for each other, reverse process renders them incapable of knowing
this. The whore has made what water she had for her right man unavailable to him,
and he has spent so much time exploiting sex, they simply become “ships that
pass in the night.” Both of them have destroyed that wonderful thing which is
one of the greatest happinesses in life. When God forbids adultery, He’s not
being unkind. He’s trying to save something that is really great for every one
of you!
“Thine own well” means the
right woman that God has designed for you only. Every time you go to another
well, you are trying to make it your own. You are trying to program that well
to you — to manufacture your right woman out of everyone with whom you
fornicate. You will never slake your thirst at anyone else’s well. Many a man
goes through life being totally frustrated because he’s drinking at everyone
else’s well (Prov. 9:17, 18). Remember, like the other grace gifts, sex must be
understood within the framework of divine design. The One who designed these
things for our happiness also set up some laws and boundaries. The laws of
divine establishment contain laws for sex. This is what is being brought out.
The “well of water” which
belongs to you must be regarded as one of the highest things on you scale of
values. In the Biblical scale of values, number one is salvation, then Bible
doctrine, and third, right man or right woman. Anyone who finds his right woman
must consider himself extremely wealthy (Prov. 31:10). There are possessions
more important than money, and this is one of them. While people in the tent
world knew very little about money or attached little importance to it, one thing
was valued above all else, and that as the well (John 4:12). When moving or
traveling, the Jews always stopped by a well. They lived by a well. There is a
sense in which a right man must live by the well his right woman. She should be
more important to him than anything anyone else in the world, with the
exception of salvation and doctrine.
THE MAN’S AGGRESSIVENESS
Your fountains
shall not overflow (to other women), in the streets a dividing of the waters (Prov. 5:16).
I want you to notice a change
from the previous verse. There the water referred to the wan. But in this verse
the fountains are gushing waters and are a picture of the male sex drive. In
the well and in the cistern the water lies placid, but what does it do in a
fountain? It bubbles up and down, up and down. The water becomes very
turbulent, and this indicates the right woman’s extreme, beautiful, glorious
passion. What stirs it up? A fountain — the force of water. It is the man who
is thirsty; it is the woman who is stirred up. How does the man relieve his
thirst? By drinking from the well. That means the woman satisfies the man. How
is she satisfied?
By the sexual ability of the male to elicit response
from his right woman. In other words, no woman is placid when her right man is
making love to her. She s a storm of passion!
“Your fountain (sex with
your right woman) shall not overflow” — that is, to others. This is a
prohibition of adultery or fornication, or in homosexuality. When a man’s
fountain, designed for his right woman, overflows to others and the male sex
aggressiveness goes into fornication, then it divides into streets. “Streets”
refer to social life. Any group organization is destroyed when there is a
sharing of one well. There is social confusion. The higher the adultery index
in a national entity, the m confusion there is. A nation of fornicators is a
nation divided. They will never be able to get together to defend their nation
or anything else.
Let them [yours acts) be for
your one and only, and not for a reversionistic, promiscuous woman (Prov.
5:17).
Every time a man fornicates,
he sells his birthright of wonderful happiness with his right woman for a mess
of pottage. What’s moll, he has tampered with God’s design. No one-night stand
with some attractive female is ever going to do anything but destroy (Prov.
6:32). Only her right man is programmed to satisfy her physically and to quench
the thirst of her soul at the same time, resulting in a happiness so beautiful
that only those who have been there can really understand it.
THE BLESSING OF RIGHT MAN RIGHT WOMAN RELATIONSHIP
Your fountain shall be permanently blessed; therefore, take pleasure in
the woman of your vigor (Prov. 5:18).
“Fountain” refers
again to the sexual aggresses of the right man toward his right woman. The next
two verbs form a periphrastic to emphasize the permanence of happiness in the
relationship of right man—right woman, even under adverse circumstances. This
verse must be regarded in the light of the previous verse. Your sex life will
be blessed only when you take pleasure in the RIGHT WOMAN of your sexual vigor.
The right woman is described in the next verse. An amorous, sexy doe (symmetry conforms perfectly to right man’s
body), a wild she-goat of grace. Her breasts shall intoxicate you at all
times; you shall always wander (up and
down her body) in the area of her love (Prov. 5:19).
The doe was known
in Palestine for its symmetry and beauty. Therefore, the doe represents the
symmetry and the beauty of the right woman as the right man sees her. As he
observes her beauty and symmetry, he is aroused to many acts of love. The next
description, “a pleasant roe,” a female goat or ibex – “a wild she-goat.” This
does not sound romantic to us. But the ancients observed that the wild she-goat
was very expressive during the sex act and therefore was apparently quite
satisfied. The word for “pleasant” is literally “grace” — wild she-goat of
grace. This indicates her magnificent wild passion in response to her right man
sexually. What is even more interesting is that the word for she-goat, JAALAH, has as its root a verb JAEL, which means “to help, to profit, to benefit.” This is the same concept
we saw in Genesis 2. The right woman is a help, benefit and profit to the right
man. Therefore, the wild she-goat of grace connotes the benefit of grace. Again
this emphasizes the three grace gifts from Jesus Christ.
We now come to her breasts.
This is one of those rather strange words in the Hebrew — a double D — that’s all.
To pronounce it, you have to put in a vowel, so you have “DAD.” So this letter “D” in the dual form, plus the vowel, means the woman’s
breasts. The word translated “satisfy” is RAWAH, which has several meanings;
but it is in the piel stem here and means “to be intoxicated with.” “Her
breasts shall intoxicate you at all times.” The woman’s breasts represent her
sexual response.
The last phrase, “you will
always wander up and down her body in the area of her love,” brings out the
principle that anything to which both right man and right woman agree is
permissible. There is no such thing as perversion in anything that they do in
their sex life together and to which both agree. But make sure it’s your right
woman!
And why, my son, should you wander up and down the body of a
promiscuous woman, and embrace the genitals of a nymphomaniac? (Prov. 5:20).
Now the question in verse 20
indicates that David knew Solomon had a wandering, roving spirit; and although
at a much later time, Solomon recorded it under the ministry of the Holy
Spirit, he did not heed these words. He really blew it. The end of this verse
is a prophecy about what happened to Solomon, as is the last phrase in the
chapter, “the greatness of his folly.” Solomon’s failure reached a magnitude the
like of which very few people have ever had the opportunity to experience.
Solomon had one thousand affairs — seven hundred wives and three hundred
concubines. Out of all of these, not one of them was his right woman!
THE PERFECT BALANCE
For before the eyes of the Lord the ways of man; he weighs all man’s
tracks
(Prov. 5:21).
“The ways of man” refers to
the pattern and function of life, described by the context as sex with the
wrong woman. This is a man who has violated the laws of divine establishment and
rejected the principle of right man—right woman. In his own way, by means of
his sexual prowess, he seeks to remold and to remake the laws of establishment.
Such a man is blasphemous! He is saying in effect, “God designed one woman for
me, but I don’t accept that. I can take any woman and reprogram her to respond
to me.”
Now the Lord knew everything
about every m and He knew it billions of years ago. The word translated
“ponder” in the English actually means “to weigh in a balance scale.” The Lord
weighs all of man’s tracks — every act of fornication with the wrong man or
wrong woman. God designed right man and right woman to be a perfect balance.
When that balance is achieved, each provides great human happiness for the
other. The man fulfills the woman, and the woman completes the man. However,
when one or the other fornicates, the scales are tipped. The man who has spent
his adult life experimenting with the female of the species or practicing any
form of perversion does not bring to his right woman all of himself, so they
don’t balance. Her mental attitude sins plus his experience keep them off
balance, and they do not derive the pleasure they otherwise would. In fact,
that’s on way right man and right woman can blow out their great capacity. God
puts them on an even scale, but when they do things that upset the balance,
they must reap what they sow. God doesn’t actually discipline them right then
and there. His judgment is simply allowing the inevitable consequences to take
effect — unhappiness and self-induced misery.
THE SLAVERY OF PROMISCUITY
His own perversions will trap him with a reversionistic woman, and he
shall be seized and bound with the chains (ropes) of his own feminine idol (Prov. 5:22).
Anything that rejects the
grace gift is a deviation from the norm and therefore perversion. The norm is
the principle of right man—right woman. The perversion of this principle as we
have seen, is fourfold; adultery or fornication, homosexuality or lesbianism,
autoerotism and bestiality. A man’s own perversions become a trap. Here is the
balancing of the scale of divine judgment. When a reversionistic male
fornicates with a reversionistic female, the scales of judgment are balanced
instead of the scales of happiness. These two make each other miserable. They
frustrate each other with their sex.
He is not only trapped, but
notice, “he shall be bound with the chains of his own feminine idol.” The
reversionistic male is binding himself to an idol which he has created with his
phallus. The idol of man’s adulterous creation is not the right woman created
by God! Why is sex said to be an idol? Man, in fornication, has intruded upon
God’s grace and upon God’s design. Man can create neither God nor God’s design.
What can man make and call it “God”? An idol. Paul said in 1 Corinthians 8:4,
“We know that an idol is nothing.” Proverbs 5 says that promiscuous or
adulterous man ends up with nothing. You can make love to an idol, but an idol
will never satisfy you. Every sexual conquest is one more chain binding you to
the idol of sex. Even if you find and marry your right woman, every time you
get in bed with her, there are actually three people in bed — your idol,
yourself and your right woman!
There is another danger. The
man who has been prom us often winds up marrying the wrong person. He is tied,
bound, chained — and that’s it. Along comes right woman but he’s had it! Now,
maybe you are thinking, “I can cut the rope “ But the Word of God says you CANNOT cut the ropes. The fact that you are chained to the wrong one does not
give you the right to jump out of marriage. So, if you thought you saw
daylight, the door has just been slammed in your face! There are other
doctrinal principles which can counteract your sins and failures — taking in
doctrine under the daily function of “GAP,” erecting an edification
complex and moving into supergrace.
He shall die
without doctrine, and in the magnitude of his folly, he shall go astray (Pro,. 5:23).
“Death” here is physical death.
It means that the promiscuous man dies without doctrine. The believer who
misses both doctrine and right man or right woman because of reversionism is a
“one-third believer.” He has lost two of the grace gifts. The only grace gift
he can’t lose, of course, is salvation and eternal life. The “abundance [or
magnitude] of his folly” refers to
the whole realm of failure in reversion negative volition toward doctrine, scar
tissue of the soul, emotional revolt and the practice of reverse process
reversionism. These destroy the capacity for love, because capacity is n the
soul. This man shall go astray — literally, “he shall wander up and clown.”
This time it does not mean to wander up and down the woman’s body, but to
wander up and down in life and never find the right woman — an Adam without his
rib!
For you who are still in
single bliss, the state of being single has a serious responsibility. Don’t
make a mistake! Get the right one the FIRST time. Now, although right
woman was the initial gift, the other two, salvation and doctrine, give wisdom,
assurance and stability in finding and maintaining the first gift. While you
are waiting, therefore, I cannot stress too often — KEEP TAKING IN DOCTRINE!
Doctrine will protect you from disappointments and mistakes. Then at the right
time God will bring along the right woman, and you will know her!
THE BRIDE OF CHRIST
When Jesus Christ looked at
Adam before the woman was “built,” He said, “LO TOBH” — not good that man
should be alone.” So Jesus Christ provided a right woman a partner for the
first Adam. Grace takes care of aloneness, and a gracious gift was provided.
The right woman canceled out “LO TOBH.”
Now it was not good that
Jesus Christ should be alone on the Cross; but just as man had to be alone
after he was created so that the grace gifts could come, so the Last Adam had
to be alone so that the gift of salvation could come to mankind. While bearing
our sins on the Cross, God the Father and God the Holy Spirit forsook Jesus
Christ (Matt. 27:46). When Christ came out from the grave, He was alone in
resurrection body. Today Christ is seated at the right hand of the Father ALONE. He is waiting for a Bride. As Christ gave Adam a right woman, so the
Father gave the Son a “right woman,” the Church. The Bride, which is being
prepared during the Church Age, is called a “Body” because it is being BUILT (Eph. 4:16).
The rib is comparable to
positional truth: believers are IN CHRIST as the rib was in Adam. The rib was
violently pulled out to be made into a bride for Adam. At the Rapture, the
Church will be caught up from the earth (1 Thess. 4:16, 17), and the Body will
become the Bride of Christ. The Father will present to the Son the Last Adam
the Bride, the Body of Christ, just as Jesus Christ brought the woman to the first
Adam. The Rapture is the presentation of the Bride in perfect resurrection
body, without the old sin nature and without human good (Eph. 5:27).
Everything we have as
believers is based on our relationship with the Lord, and many illustrations of
our relationship with Him are taken from the principle of Category Two love.
This is brought out every time the Church is described as the Bride with Jesus
Christ as the Groom. In our relationship with the Lord, He is our Right Man,
and we as believers are His “right woman” (Eph. 5:22-23). We have walked into a
permanent love relationship with the Godhead. There never was a time when they did not love each
other, when they did not have perfect capacity for each other. Jesus Christ
took on the form of man so that we could have that perfect relationship with
the Godhead. He provided eternal salvation, capacity to love Him, and every
other benefit and blessing in life. But the realization of these blessings
comes only through the knowledge of doctrine! Jesus Christ as your Right Man
initiates and expresses His love for you in His Word. Do you respond to Him
(Job 23:12)?
APPENDIX
DOCTRINE OF POLYGAMY
1. Polygamy was
never authorized by the Word of God (Lev.
18: IS; Deut.. 17:17).
a. Polygamy is never the will of God.
b. Only man in reversionism or human viewpoint
rationalism condones polygamy.
2. Polygamy is related to reversionism and is an
expression of reversionism.
a. Found in line of Lamech because of reversionism (Gen. 4:19).
b. Jacob’s polygamy (Gen. 29) set a precedent for
the Jews, but was not approved by God.
3. Polygamy violates the doctrine of right man-right
woman.
a. By an act of volition a man can destroy his right woman.
b. Man is not designed for an intimate relationship
with more than one woman.
4. Polygamy is a form of self-induced misery and
unhappiness for man.
5. Monogamy is God’s order under the laws of divine
establishment. It weakens a man to violate the laws of establishment .
6. Many great believers had one wife, therefore,
understood the doctrine of right man right woman; e.g., Noah, Abraham, Joseph,
Moses, Joshua, Samuel, etc.
7.
Trouble related to polygamy.
a. Concentration of jealousy of wives under o roof illustrated by
Jacob’s wives (Gen. 2930) and Elkanah’s wives (1 Sam. 1:6, ff.).
b. Gideon’s polygamy caused trouble among his
children (Judg. 9).
c. David’s polygamy compounded the problems in the children, and the
discipline carried to the second generation (1 Chron. 3:19).
GLOSSARY OF TERMS
1. RIGHT MAN—RIGHT WOMAN: The concept that God has designed one specific man for one specific
woman. Each member of the human race has a right opposite number, except in
special cases where a person has the gift of celibacy.
2. OLD SIN NATURE: The “old man” of Ephesians 4:22; the Adamic nature
or “flesh” of Romans 8:3, 4; the principle of “sin” of Romans 7:820. The OSN has a a of weakness which produces personal sins; an area of strength
which produces human good; a lust pattern; and trends toward asceticism and
lasciviousness.
3. DIVINE DECREES: The sum total of God the Father’s plan for the human
race; making certain all things, including man’s freedom; designed in eternity
past and centered to the Person of Jesus Christ as Savior (Eph. 1:46; 1 Pet.
1:20); based on the principle of grace (Eph. 2:8, 9).
4. RIGHT LOBE: The dominant lobe of the mentality of the soul,
designated by the Greek word KARDIA (heart). The right lobe has
four areas: frame of reference with memory center (final storage place for all
knowledge and basis for learning new knowledge); conscience (norms and
standards); vocabulary, in which categories are formed; viewpoint (use of
vocabulary, conscience, frame of reference, leading to viewpoint of life on any
give subject). The LEFT LOBE is called
the “mind” (NOUS in the Greek), which is the
perceptive lobe and a staging area.
5. DIVINE ESSENCE: The characteristics of deity; Sovereignty,
Righteousness, justice, Love, Eternal Life, Omniscience, Omnipotence,
Omnipresence, Immutability and Veracity.
6. LOVE, CATEGORIES OF: Category One toward God; Category Two
toward right man or right woman; Category Three toward friends.
7. SCAR TISSUE: The concept of “hardening of the heart.” Negative
volition toward God or Bible doctrine puts scar tissue on the soul; i.e., the
heart becomes “hardened” toward God and doctrine. Promiscuity, drug addiction,
alcoholism, o any other frantic search for happiness puts scar tissue on the
soul; i. o capacity for soul activity with other people or with God.
8. EMOTIONAL REVOLT OF THE SOUL: Emotions dominating
the mentality instead of responding to it. Contrary to the divine order whereby
the heart or right lobe should control the soul.
9. REVERSIONISM: The loss of all or part of
the Edification Complex of the soul through negative volition toward doctrine,
scar tissue of the soul, emotional revolt and apostasy. In other words moving
in reverse to God’s plan.
10. REVERSE PROCESS
REVERSIONISM: The function of the
reversionistic believer in which he rejects true objects of love and enters
into pseudo-love fanaticism toward false inconsequential objects of love.
11. DIVINE ESTABLISHMENT,
LAWS OF: Laws set up by God for the protection, orderly function and survival
of the human race during the angelic conflict.
12. DIVINE INSTITUTIONS:
Principles set up by God under the divine laws of establishment for the
perpetuation of the human race; viz., volition, marriage, family, nationalism.
13. LEGALISM: Man’s futile attempts to
gain salvation, spirituality, or the approbation of God through human good.
14. EDIFICATION COMPLEX OF THE SOUL: Immaterial
“structure” In the soul of a mature believer; the foundation is doctrine stored
in the human spirit. Composed of five “flours”: grace orientation; reed mental attitude;
mastery of the details of life; capacity to love God, right r right woman and
friends; inner happiness
15. SUPERGRACE: The final stage of spiritual growth beyond the
Edification Complex of the soul; the normal Christian life and function of the priesthood.
The place of maximum happiness and utilization of grace to either adversity or
prosperity.
16. ANGELIC CONFLICT: Unseen
conflict in which the forces of Satan are warring against the forces of God.
17. GRACE APPARATUS FOR
PERCEPTION (GAP): The provision of God whereby EVERY
believer can understand EVERY doctrine, regardless of
education or human IQ.
18. MILLENNIUM: The last one thousand year of human history in
which the Lord Jesus Christ will reign and produce perfect environment on the earth.
19. PHALLIC CULT: A system
of religion, practiced in the groves, which involved idolatry and fornication
in the worship of Baal and the other members of the Canaanisish pantheon (Ex.
34:12I6; Lev. 18; I Kgs. 14:15; 2 Chron. 33:3; Jet. 17:2, et al.).
20. SIN UNTO DEATH: Maximum discipline to the reversionistic believer
whereby he is removed, before his time, from Phase Two without benefit of dying
grace.